Why I Stopped Letting My MBTI Type Hold Me Back
Discover how I learned to separate my MBTI type from my personal growth. Stop using your type as a crutch and take control of your life.
Marcus RiveraFebruary 16, 20263 min read
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Discover how I learned to separate my MBTI type from my personal growth. Stop using your type as a crutch and take control of your life.
The article details the author's journey from letting their INTP MBTI type define and limit them to taking responsibility for personal growth. It argues against using type as an excuse for behaviors or avoiding challenges, instead advocating for using MBTI as a tool for self-awareness rather than a cage. The author shares how they overcame perceived limitations, like leading as an introvert, by actively challenging their type-based assumptions.
Two years ago, I would have told you that my type defined me. I was an INTP. To me, that was everything. It explained my quirks, my bluntness, my love for logic. I thought I could let my type dictate my actions. I was dead wrong.
I remember a coaching session with a young professional, Sarah. She was brilliant, but her conversations often went downhill. One time, when a colleague suggested an emotional tagline for a project, Sarah immediately shot back, 'That's logically inconsistent with our brand's value proposition.' The energy in the room died. 'It's just who I am,' she said, 'I'm a thinker.' It frustrated me.
I tried to reason with her, but she kept using her type as a shield. 'I can't help it,' she'd say. I realized later that I had made the same mistake.
In his 2013 LinkedIn post, 'Say Goodbye to MBTI,' organizational psychologist Adam Grant pointed out that many MBTI participants receive different results on retesting. If our types were so solid, why were we so inconsistent?
I learned that using my type as an excuse was a trap. It stunted my growth. So I stopped.
My epiphany came when I faced a significant career decision. I was given a leadership role. My immediate thought? 'I can't lead; I'm not an extrovert.' That old excuse reared its ugly head.
But I paused. I recalled a paper by David Pittenger from 1993 on MBTI limitations. I realized my type shouldn't dictate my choices. I decided to embrace the challenge, not shy away from it.
I stepped into the role. I learned to communicate differently. I accepted feedback. I pushed through discomfort. I discovered I could lead, despite my type.
I saw others around me roleplaying their MBTI types. A colleague, an ESFJ, constantly insisted that her feeling nature meant she should avoid conflict. It was exhausting. It became her crutch.
Each time she dodged tough conversations, I could see her growth stagnating. I realized she was using her type as a convenient excuse, just like I did.
I came across a meta-analysis that reaffirmed my observations. While MBTI showed internal consistency, it lacked the necessary structural validity. This meant our types could explain aspects of our behavior but not justify them.
I committed to using my knowledge of MBTI differently. Instead of allowing my type to define me, I let it inform me. I began to see it as a tool, not a cage.
I held myself accountable. When I felt tempted to lean on my type as an excuse, I asked myself: 'What would someone outside of my type do in this situation?'
This mindset shift changed everything. I became proactive instead of reactive.
As I write this, I still grapple with the remnants of my old beliefs. There's a temptation to revert back. But I strive to remember: my type is not an excuse; it’s a piece of the puzzle.
The journey of self-improvement is ongoing. I now embrace challenges. I refuse to let my MBTI type hold me back.
So, to anyone reading this: next time you catch yourself saying, 'I can't help it, I'm an INTP,' pause. Here's what you do:
Straight-talking MBTI pragmatist who cuts through fluffy personality content. With hundreds of coaching sessions under his belt, Marcus uses MBTI as a practical tool for real-world results, not just labels.
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